Recently I read a (North American-based) blog that was a celebration of female financial independence, which I’m all for.
One of the posters announced that she was divorcing her husband of 20 years because “I’ve decided that if I have to support my husband for the rest of my life, I may as well be divorced and be happy.” Another poster shared that she was ditching her husband because throughout their 16 years of marriage she had been the main breadwinner, and she ultimately didn’t see the point in keeping on another mouth to feed. She very cleverly worked out a way to keep their two kids and set up a trust for them, not to mention finding a way to pressure her ex-husband for child support, despite knowing that he earned far less money than she did.
Now, imagine that the roles were reversed, and it was a man happily announcing that he was going to dump his wife, because she didn’t contribute her fair share of the household expenses. Imagine the uproar, even in your own mind.