A few months ago I joined a local book club for gaijins. We meet every other week, and so far there are seven members. I have to say that almost all of them are elderly expats in their seventies (sometimes younger people join, and swiftly drop out … I don’t really blame them, we’re not a very exciting bunch). One other member is an IT engineer originally from New York who is exactly the same age as me, and has Japanese relatives here, so I feel that I have a lot in common with him (don’t get your hopes up girls, he’s happily married!). He’s a dynamic guy, quite a mover and shaker, and right now he’s one of the few people that I actually trust and confide in.
Last week over a club dinner he said something that startled me. “You know Miko, you could be doing so much more with your life. Do you want me to ask around? I know people who could get you hooked up.” Upon enquiring just what he meant by “doing more” it turned out that he thought I would have great potential joining a start-up company and moving up through the ranks, instead of this ridiculous fiddling around with teahouses and cram schools, etc.
I said “thanks, but no thanks.” At this stage of life, I don’t want to have to answer to anyone. (And crikey, aren’t I “doing” enough already?)