Advice from an Ass

I went to my high school reunion this weekend.  One of the guys there, whom I haven’t seen in 48 years, and who has never met my son, informed me that I was holding him back by having him live with me.  I don’t know if he meant because he thought Dan should be out on his own or that Dan is just living with me because of Ken’s death.  I don’t care.  I didn’t argue about it.  I just said “You might be right.”  Sod him.  He obviously doesn’t appreciate the Japanese family concept.  Frankly, I think his advice is more Mr. Spock than Dr. Spock.

I told Dan about it when I got back.  Ever since, he’ll occasionally pass by me or duck into the room and moan “I’m so oppressed.”


3 comments on “Advice from an Ass

  1. Miko says:

    Yes, very oppressed I imagine, almost as much as your cats! Personally I’d be dismayed if your only son left you to fend for yourself. It would be highly irregular in Japan. Even the Sonbeam, who is relatively modern and westernised in his outlook, would never dream of leaving me on my own, and has planned his future around the assumption that he’s going to be caring for me in my dotage, which is kind of typical here. Unfortunately many Japanese women actively avoid marrying eldest (or only) sons for this very reason. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever be able to marry him off.

  2. Petra says:

    The cheek of that guy – what’s it to him how you and your son arrange your life?

  3. Karen says:

    Miko, Dan leaving would be okay, although I do like having him in the house. I recognize that there may/will come a time when he wants to work in some other state or city, or move in with a girlfriend. But as of now, it’s convenient for both of us for him to live with me, and we don’t get in each other’s way at all. In fact, it has been great on this trip to have a live-in pet sitter & plant waterer. BTW, we’re in the Minneapolis area now, at my friend’s house here. I will fly back home Tues. July 6. It has been a glorious trip. I can’t down load any of my pics yet, but will when I get back. I had to buy a new cam, as my other one gave me “memory card error” although I have a relatively new memory card in it. It gave me that reading before, and wouldn’t work at all. When I got a new memory card, it worked fine – for a while. Hopefully, Dan can take the photos off my old memory card. If not, I’m going to be very, very sad, because I had some wonderful photos and videos on there – like of the Chihuly glass exhibitions at the Missouri Conservation Center, and of butterflies at The Butterfly House in Missouri.

    Petra, that was exactly my thought. I mean, he hasn’t seen me in nearly 50 years and never met my son. What a jerk.

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