“It was a hard adjustment period for me. My husband loved it from the start. Women were all over him, bringing him coffee from the cafe while I was at work, cooking dinners for him if I had to work late, catering to him like he was some sort of god. Within 6 months here I found him cheating with another woman. I left him, sadly. My expat experience has turned me into an insecure angry beaten person who was once a winner. Now I’m so weak. Feels like I’ve aged 10 years in three. It’s been a rough life here!”
A common situation in Japan is when a gaijin couple move here and discover that one half of the couple (usually the male) adapts a whole lot better than the other half. But guess what? The above experience didn’t take place in Japan …. it took place in New Zealand. And it’s not an uncommon one, either.
This leads me to believe two things: that men have it easier everywhere in the world, and that most (Western) emigrants have hopelessly unrealistic expectations of what their new life will bring them. A bit like Paris syndrome, I suppose.